Shrinking Spaces
For me, and for Merriam-Webster, “Bondage” means slavery, it means restraining someone, taking away their freedom, their power. This is a criminal act unless it’s […]
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My book shelf
Today, I would like to introduce you to my somatic bookshelf at home and express my respect for some of my influencers and teachers. I […]
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On fantasies and honesty
Last weekend we taught the “Mythos Showa” workshop in Kinbaku Lounge which was very transformative for us, leaving behind some inhibitions, daring to show ourselves […]
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On “healing” in ropes
A while ago I gave an interview to someone who is writing a book about BDSM as a healing modality. I think it will be […]
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Seeking liberation in restraint
My teacher Joseph Kramer found it humorous that I’m seeking liberation in restraint. Well, the rope – the restraint – is just a vehicle. The […]
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Tying as Inquiry vs. Imposition
This is something that I pondered about alredy for a while and finally was able to pin it after hearing Steve James talking about something […]
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Being seen: witnessing in Kinbaku
One of the very first experiences in life is that of being seen. Parents witness the newborn. What is the development of the self if […]
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You do not have to be good
It came as a shock when a friend of mine shared with me her insecurities, about how she feels “not good enough”. “Not good for […]
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What is “Soma”
Thanks to Scot Kinbaku who said that since I keep referring to “soma” during our workshops, I should explain it, so here it comes 🙂 […]
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Self-validated sexuality
I am feeling particularly reflective today. So you get a little piece of my kitchen psychology 🙂 about our need for validation from others. Why […]
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