Kinbaku Rituals: how to create a space where play and intimacy are welcomed?
I’m not into DS, and neither is my partner. Role-playing was never my thing. But Kinbaku space is not casual for me. It is sacred… […]
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Being seen: witnessing in Kinbaku
One of the very first experiences in life is that of being seen. Parents witness the newborn. What is the development of the self if […]
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You do not have to be good
It came as a shock when a friend of mine shared with me her insecurities, about how she feels “not good enough”. “Not good for […]
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How do we cope?
That was an interesting talk we had with Anna Noctuelle during EURIX that was supposed to become a workshop together, but we couldn’t get a […]
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How big is your “cup”?
When people come to me to talk about about their “issues” in rope bottoming, it is often about emotions: feeling deeply, allowing and containing “difficult” […]
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Waist rope
“…And as I don’t want to make the decision yet, I tie a waist rope…” We just got back from teaching the “Bodies under Pressure” […]
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Stereotypes about Semenawa
I have heard a lot of stereotypes and opinions about seme-nawa. Many of those have stopped me for years to engage with this rope style. […]
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Why do I like to be tied?
This is something I wrote a few years ago for a project that never came to life. I would like to publish it here because […]
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Difficult to let go…
Here is my answer to a question I received from someone on social media. I was asked about the difficulty of letting go (of control) […]
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